Hello and happy Sunday Funday. [Blogged while still drinking coffee at noon.]
I tried, you guys. I heard the buzz, I watched four episodes and I tried. For those of you living under a rock, Selling Sunset is a reality show about beautiful women selling homes in the L.A. real estate market. It’s another entertaining drama filled with predictable plots, petty fights and plenty of girl-on-girl hate. So, just to re-group, it’s a show about successful, independent, beautiful women — and the focus of the show is their cattiness and backstabbing. But, Lyss, #ratings. Understood, got it. But also, can we not anymore?
I’m tired of people being entertained by trivial turmoil between grown ass women. Dear society, you cannot preach the message to support the woman next to me when you broadcast tired narratives that feature the exact opposite. We already have odds stacked against us when it comes to supporting each other. Well, golly jeepers, why ever would that be? Is it because industry beauty standards are stretch goals? Or that fast fashion tells us we’re so last year when the year hasn’t even started? Maybe it’s because we scroll past women on social media whose feed is unnaturally perfectly curated. And at the end of the day, when we wipe off the makeup mask we put on to feel good about ourselves, we go to bed feeling envious and unworthy. It’s no wonder we prove stereotypes right. Many of us feel less-than while admiring an impossible reality. So what happens when we see someone living that reality? We get jealous, judgmental and mean. We gravitate to gossip and bask in another girl’s failure to feel better about our own.
This is the shit that’s making people money. And many of us can see through it, but I’m willing to bet there are many young girls who watch shows like this and think that’s the way women are supposed to act. That’s just the way it is. And that it’s OK.
There’s a lot of self-awareness and personal growth that happens before you can look at another woman’s success and genuinely cheer her on without judgment or envy. Here’s my scientific breakdown:
There’s always going to be a woman who’s prettier, smarter, more successful, more outgoing, or more this and that than you. And that’s awesome. Good for her. Cheer that bitch on. Because you’re that prettier, smarter, more successful and more outgoing bitch to someone else.
Next time you get upset at someone else’s success, take a step back to remember #GirlPower, drop a “get it girl,” and try to live every day in the girls’ bathroom.